From Self-Sabotage to Self-Trust: The Real Way I Got Unstuck
Feeling stuck in a life that looks fine but feels wrong? Learn how Anna stopped self-sabotaging, built self-trust, and rebuilt her life from the inside out.
For years, everything in my life looked fine.
The house, the business, the to-do lists — all polished enough to convince everyone, including me, that I was doing okay.
But the truth?
I was constantly breaking promises to the one person I depended on most — my future self.
I’d never dream of treating my kids, my friends, or my clients the way I treated her:
leaving her unprepared, exhausted, picking up the pieces of my avoidance.
It hit me one morning as I left the house with an empty handbag — no water, no painkillers, not even a pen. I’d planned to “just cope.”
And I realised that’s exactly how I’d been living: always hoping present-me would manage, leaving future-me stranded.
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🩷1️⃣ Recognising Self-Sabotage in Disguise
Self-sabotage rarely looks dramatic.
It looks like over-committing, people-pleasing, saying “I’m fine” when you’re burning out.
It’s skipping the small acts of care that make life easier later — meals, sleep, systems, boundaries.
We call it “coping.” But it’s self-abandonment with good PR.
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💡2️⃣ Becoming the Friend My Future Self Could Trust
I started small: packing my bag properly.
If future-me might need it, I made sure she had it — literally and emotionally.
That gesture rewired everything.
I began scheduling recovery time, setting reminders, choosing food, rest and money decisions for her.
It wasn’t glamorous. But it built self-respect faster than any self-help book ever did.
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⚖️3️⃣ Taking Responsibility — Without the Shame
Responsibility isn’t about blame.
It’s ownership — the moment you say, “This is my life, and I can shape it.”
When I stopped waiting for someone else to fix things — a partner, a parent, the universe — I stopped feeling powerless.
Responsibility became the most radical form of self-care I’d ever practiced.
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🌱4️⃣ Rebuilding Self-Trust (and Getting Unstuck)
Trust isn’t built by grand gestures; it’s built by consistency.
Every time I followed through — on a boundary, a budget, or a bedtime — my nervous system relaxed.
That’s what getting unstuck really is: not a leap, but a thousand small promises kept.
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✨5️⃣ Try This Today
Ask yourself: Would I treat my best friend the way I treat my future self?
If the answer’s no, start with one tiny act of reliability.
Pack the bag. Send the email. Rest when you said you would.
Momentum begins with micro-integrity.
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🗝 Closing Reflection
Getting unstuck wasn’t about fixing my life — it was about becoming someone I could rely on.
That’s the quiet revolution: moving from self-sabotage to self-trust, one choice at a time.
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🔗 Call to Action
If this resonated, listen to the full episode of Her Shift Podcast: “What I Did When I Realised My Life Looked Fine but Felt Wrong.”
Inside, I share the full story and three shifts you can use to rebuild self-trust starting today.
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