I Spent Over £50,000 on Self-Improvement — Here’s Why It Didn’t Work

Why thousands of pounds in courses and coaching didn’t heal me — and what I finally learned about safety, shame, and self-worth.

🔑The Room

This is not your average book club. The Room is a secret podcast, real talk, and a community that actually gets it. Come sit with us.

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I’ve spent more on self-development than on my first car. Every purchase promised transformation.

But underneath the shiny “invest in yourself” message was a nervous system stuck in survival mode.

When you’re in trauma response — freeze, fight, fawn — your brain isn’t learning, it’s protecting. Every new course became proof that I wasn’t enough. The harder I tried to improve, the worse I felt.

Healing isn’t a masterclass. It’s safety.

It’s being able to sit still without your body buzzing with guilt.

Now, I’m choosing small, sustainable steps — like my book club, The Room, or a £10 membership I can dip into without shame.

Because the truth is: peace is the real ROI.

🔑The Room

This is not your average book club. The Room is a secret podcast, real talk, and a community that actually gets it. Come sit with us.

👉 Step inside: THE ROOM

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I’m Anna

Welcome to Her Shift, my very real corner of the internet dedicated to all things Trauma Truths & Healing with shifts. My story is of surviving Narcissistic abuse, life long mental health battles and beating the PMDD monster. Here, I invite you to join me on a journey of sharing truths, being courageous and shifting beliefs to heal and have a Goddamn better life. Let’s get our Shift together!

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